Note: This is an updated post from my previous article: “4 Ways To Preserve Your Energy For A Healthier Mind” on Medium
Energy is like currency. It flows like a river. We will be recirprocated for the energy we send out into the Universe. Doing so allows us to make decisions and go on paths that are meant for us.
Frankly, I am a science-oriented person. I never believed in anything that I could not see, touch, or hear. Everything was open for discussion and questioning. It wasn’t until I read the book: “The Tyranny of Science” that I realized how philosophical many of our theorists are. The idea of a Universe and laws of nature which our energy can be built on was new to me.
Thinking about the ways in which we experience the Universe began in ancient religious practices, most commonly understood as Pantheism – where there is an understanding that the Universe is much bigger than us. That there are forces which exist to help us.
Focus on things you can control
I live with anxiety. It took me a long time to accept and seek therapy for. One of the common determinants of anxiety, however, is one’s need for control — the outcome, job, relationship, you name it. But at the end of the day, when we seek control, we lose ourselves in the process.
Looking to control how people react to you – or worse, trying to change them – isn’t healthy. You’ll be constantly walking on eggshells and hoping someone will save you. I’ve been there. Wanting to take control of any situation is very counter-productive and does more harm than good.
Instead, focus on what you can control. These would be your emotions, thoughts, and your next move. It means being able to stay calm in any situation and adapt to changing circumstances.
Choose whose opinion to listen to
It took me a long time to realize that not everyone’s opinion matters. I don’t mean haters or strangers on the Internet. We’re looking at family, friends or colleagues who give an off-hand opinion about an area in your life. For example, I used to listen to a good friend’s opinion about graduate school when he has never been. I used to seek relationship advice from people who were in toxic relationships… or those who have never been in one.
My energy was slowly depleting, trying to listen from those whose life I didn’t want to portray. I’ve since learned that preserving my energy is also setting boundaries about whose advice I should listen to and act on.
If someone doesn’t have the type of relationship you want (i.e. both partners are independent), don’t seek out their advice. If someone isn’t cutting back on their McDonald’s orders and tells you how to be “healthy,” don’t listen to their advice.
We often spend too much time looking for other people’s opinions and guidance that we neglect whether they’re truly worth looking into. Newsflash: they aren’t.
Practice morning meditation
Meditation has been shown to control anxiety. Researchers from the Marahishi University of Management in Iowa, USA, conducted a meta-analysis on transcendental meditation which found that 8 weeks of mindfulness practice helped reduce anxiety.
Moreover, meditation has shown to help raise self-awareness, promote emotional health, and improves sleep. This indicates that daily meditative practice helps various aspects of your life – not just if you’re feeling anxious.
I personally prefer meditating in the morning, right before I start my day. As I believe it helps lift up my mood and, generally, become focused on the upcoming activities. Naturally, this all depends on when you feel most comfortable to practice. I’ve heard of friends meditating at night and sometimes even see others at the park, in the middle of a workday.
Don’t lump tasks all at once
I know plenty of serial procrastinators in the room… And I can hear many of them groaning!
But hear me out: preserving your energy is 10x easier when you’re not stressed to finish a deadline.
Articles indicate that procrastination isn’t a time-management problem, instead, might be an emotional problem. We know that finishing a task depends on “our mood” and what we feel like doing for the day. Yet many of us assume that it will lead to happiness and eventual success. Psychology research indicates otherwise.
When you’re spending an intense amount of energy on one task over a short period of time, you end up burning out much quicker. Procrastinating and going after a deadline tends to make people more anxious and irritated. This means that you’re spending up all your energy, leading up to negative consequences.
Instead, look at how to spread tasks out evenly throughout the week with breaks in-between. Knowing when to rest helps improve our health and overall well-being. Plus, it helps make sure you have enough energy for long periods of time.